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Investigating and Rewriting the Self-schema, Identifying my Values, Goal-Setting and Creating a Vision for the Future

Practice: Investigating and Rewriting the Self-schema In Part III, I suggested an action exercise on writing out what is currently in your Self-schema. Writing out the content of my Self-schema makes me aware of what kind of a person I … Continue reading

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Establishing Healthy Boundaries, Emotional Completion, Diagnosing Addictions and Removing Lifestyle Stressors

Socio-emotional Needs In addition to the basic human needs for air, light, water, food, sleep, strength and mobility, we also have social and emotional needs. As social animals, we have a need for social acceptance and we like to relate, … Continue reading

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Setting High Standards & the Actual and Ideal Self

Accepting Responsibility “The starting point of maturity is the realization that no one is coming to the rescue. Everything you are or ever will be is entirely up to you.” ~ Brian Tracy ~ If I want to make a … Continue reading

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Healthy Boundaries, Concepts & Cognitive Dissonance

Part III: The Dynamic Self-schema “The motivating force behind the forming of shared illusions in a group is identical to that in the self: to minimize anxiety.” ~ Daniel Goleman ~ Introduction In the first two parts, I covered two … Continue reading

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Summary, Completion and the Capacity for Challenge

The incomplete needs company In a state of unprocessed past hurts, the wounded individual doesn’t feel whole. Like I wrote earlier: Deep down, the child knows that something just isn’t right. This intuitive feel is spot on as the child’s … Continue reading

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Fear, the Autonomic Nervous System & the narrowing of our Range of Behaviour

Fear versus anxiety Aside from the negative impact of unprocessed hurt from abuse I already mentioned, there is another detrimental factor to uncompleted past pain that I want to write about. That is, the underlying sense of threat a person … Continue reading

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The parent/child Trust Bridge and Trauma/Abuse

Defenceless child It is quite paradoxical that the child is usually more eager to explore new things than the adult, as the child is much more vulnerable. The child is physically small and not very strong, yet seems unfazed by … Continue reading

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